Friday, 13 December 2013

Peer Support - three men and a Nissan Micra

(BroadhempstonCommunity Woodland - visit four 22.10.08)

‘…In a car you‘re always in a compartment, and because you’re use to it you don‘t realize that through that car window everything you see is just more TV. …On a cycle the frame is gone. You’re completely in contact with it all. You’re in the scene, not just watching it any more, and the sense of presence is overwhelming.’  From the opening passage of Robert Pirsig’s, Zen And The Art Of Motorcycle Maintenance

Monday morning and the talk at the Pickwick Café in Teignmouth is about BCW. A friend of mine is saying how much he enjoyed the visit we made with Martin. It had been great to be out somewhere so undeveloped, but he warns me that once you set yourself up to help the ‘disabled’, then the rules and regulations that come with the money, may mean you end up destroying the very experience you’re trying to offer! And he should know if anyone does.

Skirting the edge of Channing’s Wood on the way from Denbury he’d said: ‘That’s one I was never in!’ He’s in his sixties now, and has spent a total of 25 years of his life either in prisons or other secure environments. He was put on psychiatric drugs whilst still a child, and labelled with a severe mental illness as a young man.

Only two years ago workers were telling him he would never live independently in the community. I remember being with him about a year ago, and after ten minutes or so of intense talk, he apologised and said he’d have to stop. I assumed it was because of the emotional nature of what we were talking about, but I was quite wrong, it was because he was not use to talking - full stop. The muscles that make speech, needed a rest!

But it wasn’t always that way, for about 12 years he was a casual agricultural labourer, migrating with the seasons on his bike from Cornwall to Scotland. And it becomes obvious as we set off to climb Beacon Hill that he knows more about trees than we do!

His community now centres around his local church, and his spirituality is something about letting go of that preoccupation with ‘self’ that comes with chronic mental distress. Once you’ve got yourself together you can start being of use to others.

The writer Karen Armstrong argues that the spiritual is making others, or other things, the central focus of your life, allowing transcendent experiences - going beyond our usually limited perception of others - and being guided by what seems a ‘golden rule’ of all faiths - doing to others, as you would have them do to you!

Going up the hill I’m still a little confused by the red and blue trails, but the other two expect me to lead, and to be carrying in my rucksack anything they might need!  (And Martin’s the worker, the one being paid to be there). At the summit I find myself giving up water, sandwiches and chocolate.

My friend and I are of course as different as chalk and cheese. He’s just beginning the challenge of learning to read and write. But since we are everything the other is not, ‘the whole is greater than the sum of the parts’.

My ambition is that he should get to grips with that great philosophical work Zen And The Art Of Motorcycle Maintenance. He is steeped in the biker ‘culture’ of the last forty years, whilst I know about philosophy and meditation. But the real connection of course is that Pirsig himself spent time in a psychiatric hospital, and was at one time, like yours truly, diagnosed as a manic depressive!



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